Preference: Females, but makes an
exception for male Shepard in ME3
Personality: Stoic, thoughtful, vanilla
biotic with a dark past is back in Mass Effect 3, assuming you chose to keep
him alive during the events of Mass Effect 1. In Mass Effect 3, Kaidan has the
extremely awesome task of commanding a biotic-based covert ops unit for the
Alliance, though he is quick to join Shepard and fight for the galaxy when the
Reapers invade Earth.
Note: Kaidan’s role in Mass Effect 3 is
virtually identical to Ashley’s, as are the steps to romancing him.
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Both new and
imported female and male Shepards can romance Kaidan, but in the case of
females, actions taken in previous games can complicate things. Kaidan will be
suspicious of your motives early on in the game regardless of any previous
relationships, but this resentment is multiplied if you ‘cheated’ on him during
the second game. If that’s the case for you, make sure to follow the guide
part of your squad for the Priority: Mars mission, and it’s during this time he’ll
repeatedly bring up Shepard’s prior relationship with Cerberus. Avoid the
aggressive Renegade responses, especially if you’re making up for being unfaithful
in the second game.
way to prevent Kaidan from getting injured on Mars. He will be laid up in the
hospital for a good chunk of the game, so it’s important to visit him when
When you go to the Citadel after the Mars mission, make sure to stop by the
hospital. While not absolutely necessary, you should also visit Sirta Supplies
on your way and purchase the Peruvian whiskey gift for Kaidan. He’s unconscious
at this time, but it will come in handy later. Don’t worry about specific
dialog choices here; he can’t hear you.
Priority: Palaven mission, you should get a private message from Kaidan, who is
awake and willing to see you. Now is your opportunity to present him with that
whiskey, and you should be generally supportive here in order to regain his
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be back on his feet during the Tuchanka missions, and he’ll once again extend
an invite via private message. It’s important that you visit him again at this
time and continue the supportive dialog, or things could get quite messy the
next time you two encounter each other.
At the end
of the Priority: Citadel mission, Kaidan will be escorting Udina and end up in
a standoff with Shepard. If you’ve done everything you can so far to nurture
your relationship with Kaidan, you can get him to stand down very easily (if
you are playing an imported Shepard), or with one bar of reputation (if you are
playing new). If you can’t get Kaidan to stand down here, things get pretty
ugly, and the road to romance will end.
There is a
forced encounter with Kaidan just before returning to the Normandy. It’s here
that you actually convince him to stay on your crew. He’ll gladly join if
you’ve been friendly so far; if not, it will take some serious reputation
points to convince him. It should go without saying that he needs to be on your
crew if you wish to see this romance through. As soon as you’re back on the
Normandy, pay a quick visit to the starboard observation deck and have a chat
Closing the deal
Priority: Geth Dreadnought mission, Kaidan will send you a private message
inviting you to dinner with him at the café on the Citadel. Choose favorable
responses here and things will be all but wrapped up.
The real reason you’re here:
chosen to go ahead with the Priority: Cerberus Headquarters mission, the
following scene between Shepard and Kaidan will take place: