Five rules for introducing your girlfriend to gaming

 Don’t be a backseat gamer, but don’t make a big deal about helping out when help is needed. If she wants you to take the controller, she’ll hand it to you. If an FAQ is the medication needed, don’t act like it’s blasphemy, just pull up the damn FAQ.  It’s hard to not come off like an ass when you see a solution someone else doesn’t, especially when your impossible-to-comprehend explanation is just making them frustrated. Remember that everything is clearer when you’re not the one actually playing; let her make mistakes and learn from them.

Above: “I saw some ammo on the left. Go to the left. You’re not going. Don’t you want that ammo? You’re almost out of ammo, you should go get that ammo I saw. Oh, wait, where is it? I swear I saw some ammo there. Hey, let play for a sec, I’ll find it.”

It won’t be long before you’re the one who’s stuck, and she’s pointing out the way to go. I would have been stuck on the final battle in Resident Evil 5 for an extra ten minutes had my wise companion not pointed out my error. So, to recap, don’t be a dick – you make mistakes too.

Above: “Oops, I killed you. Sorry. Now where was that ammo? OH, I think I know where it was. Go back there after you respawn. You’re not going. Are you listening?”

Now get out there and convince your non-gamer friends, girlfriends, or boyfriends (if all of this gross stereotyping is reversed in your case) to give games a chance. The perception that gamers are lonely animals is completely off – gaming is, and always has been (with a few exceptions) an excellent social experience. Overcoming a pain-in-the-ass boss fight is far more satisfying when you have someone to celebrate with.

Apr 15, 2009


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  • Xtapolapopotamus - April 15, 2009 7:28 p.m.

    I glanced over this article. Tyler, you are a sexist pig. All kidding aside, good article. Should help lots of people get their girlfriends to at least take a look at gaming.
  • fattestninjaever - April 15, 2009 7:35 p.m.

    Nice. My love interest is into Nazi Zombies, I'm glad I know where to go after that.
  • Lavos - April 15, 2009 8:41 p.m.

  • theeambassador - April 15, 2009 8:48 p.m.

    after you beat resi 5 and get infinite ammo, turn the lights out, and let her go thru with you again in split screen co-op and just protect her or nudge her in the right direction(if she asks)when she gets stuck,she actually got a rush from blowing shit up in the car chase and after we beat the giant majini together she raped me
  • BodyDamage - April 15, 2009 8:53 p.m.

    great article.
  • zanthox - April 15, 2009 9:01 p.m.

    Well, I just got my girlfriend to try out Peggle and within a matter of days she beat all the challenges... Guess it is time to step up a level or two...
  • GamesRadarJoeMcNeilly - April 15, 2009 9:27 p.m.

    I've had the "conversation" in Rule 2 more often than I care to admit.
  • WonsAuto - April 15, 2009 9:39 p.m.

    I love Peggle.
  • RebornKusabi - April 15, 2009 9:52 p.m.

    I might absolutely fail when it comes to even getting a female's attention for more then 5 seconds however I do have a very good friend who has a girlfriend and while she hates playing video games, she loves watching him play them. They have figured out a common love for Survival Horror games so he has been playing alot of Silent Hill, Fatal Frame, and older Resident Evil (Him and her both strongly dislike the last two games). So no, Tyler is not wrong in his assumption (Though I would call it fact as my sister also loves the Silent Hill and the older Resident Evil games as well) that women love a good Survival Horror game. Anyways, great article man!
  • TrevorISme - April 15, 2009 10:53 p.m.

    Some of this is so true! like I was sitting around with my girl friend and my friend and his lady, and we were getting bored, so my friend turns on my xbox, puts on Peggle and we all have a blast taking turns between levels or when we lose its fun fun fun for everyone
  • PCG_Evan - April 15, 2009 11:32 p.m.

    My girlfriend hadn't played a PC shooter in her life, and when I showed her L4D, she burned through all four campaigns on normal difficulty, and later came back to play on advanced--successfully. As much as there are some unique mechanics tied to the co-op and special infected, she had more fun with it than Portal, for whatever reason.
  • TrIp13G - April 15, 2009 11:40 p.m.

    I am definitely bearing these tips in mind. I've got a woman I'd like to get into gaming proper, and this article definitely pointed me in the right direction. Thank you, Tyler.
  • Hobojedi - April 15, 2009 11:53 p.m.

    The last page is so true and right.
  • MildlyAmused - April 16, 2009 12:03 a.m.

    For non-indoctrinated females, this article is a great idea. Come on guys, use this gold mine. I'm tired of being mistaken for a 12-year old boy on L4D. More girls = more fun. ^_^
  • Romination - April 16, 2009 12:28 a.m.

    this is a good article. I think that the headline is a bit's more of 'how to get a nongamer interesting in gaming into gaming more', but with anecdotes about your fiance (ooh la la) weaved in. and it seems it would totally work in that regard.
  • BanHer - April 16, 2009 1:24 a.m.

    As a girl gamer, I can honestly tell you that this is the most accurate article I've ever read that's about girls in general. You honestly nailed it.
  • bjt2012 - April 16, 2009 4:23 a.m.

    Burnout Paradise = girlfriend gold Fast cars crashing in an open world environment really got my girlfriend to play
  • phoenix_wings - April 16, 2009 4:40 a.m.

    Hmm...The only thing that I can relate to this is article is that my friends (who have consoles somehow) who aren't that into gaming. They play the more casual games, like...ehh, trivia games on their consoles. They're fun, but not something that I would typically enjoy for long periods. See, that's something that i would personally start with if I had to introduce someone into gaming. Very casually, get them on the Wii bandwagon, and then gauge their reactions. If they get bored with the kiddie games, move them up to other ones that are easier, but a little more advanced. That would be suitable for me--having a relationship with someone that understands that games can be fun, and understands my passion. And enjoys it too--maybe not to the extent that I do, but close.
  • Accidental - April 16, 2009 9:08 a.m.

    I hope that I will not have to introduce gaming to my future boyfriend. Its rather an important part in the criteria for my next partner. CoD4 junky looking for love!
  • JCBlueNose - April 16, 2009 10:14 a.m.

    Why would you not want to introduce gaming to your new boyfriend that way you can show off your skills on games

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