Five rules for introducing your girlfriend to gaming

 Don’t be a backseat gamer, but don’t make a big deal about helping out when help is needed. If she wants you to take the controller, she’ll hand it to you. If an FAQ is the medication needed, don’t act like it’s blasphemy, just pull up the damn FAQ.  It’s hard to not come off like an ass when you see a solution someone else doesn’t, especially when your impossible-to-comprehend explanation is just making them frustrated. Remember that everything is clearer when you’re not the one actually playing; let her make mistakes and learn from them.

Above: “I saw some ammo on the left. Go to the left. You’re not going. Don’t you want that ammo? You’re almost out of ammo, you should go get that ammo I saw. Oh, wait, where is it? I swear I saw some ammo there. Hey, let play for a sec, I’ll find it.”

It won’t be long before you’re the one who’s stuck, and she’s pointing out the way to go. I would have been stuck on the final battle in Resident Evil 5 for an extra ten minutes had my wise companion not pointed out my error. So, to recap, don’t be a dick – you make mistakes too.

Above: “Oops, I killed you. Sorry. Now where was that ammo? OH, I think I know where it was. Go back there after you respawn. You’re not going. Are you listening?”

Now get out there and convince your non-gamer friends, girlfriends, or boyfriends (if all of this gross stereotyping is reversed in your case) to give games a chance. The perception that gamers are lonely animals is completely off – gaming is, and always has been (with a few exceptions) an excellent social experience. Overcoming a pain-in-the-ass boss fight is far more satisfying when you have someone to celebrate with.

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  • Dr_Mr_Paul - March 22, 2011 8:59 p.m.

    i introduced my girl to video games starting with cod4.... she fucking loved it and now plays more cod than i do XP
  • keltar93 - December 14, 2010 4:08 p.m.

    There's an easy way that I found- date a girl already into games. Even if it's on a lesser level than you (she's a big fan of Professor Layton and humorous adventure games), she'll be able to at least understand and respect your hobby. If she flat out denies it as childish, show here some of Tyler's suggestions (Half-Life 2, Portal, etc.) If she refuses, get a better woman
  • olio - March 8, 2010 9:56 a.m.

    Sigh... Now if only I could find a guy that played more than FPS's and Sports games...
  • Edthefreak - August 9, 2009 4:32 a.m.

    My girlfriend is rather casual gamer. I've tested the waters a little bit with her, with games like Viva Pinata and Plants vs. Zombies, they're not balls-hurt hard, and they're fun for both of us.
  • STR33TFiR3 - August 7, 2009 5:21 p.m.

    I would really like it if my GF liked games! I would definitely give the recommended ones a try.
  • xXHaloKillerXx - June 22, 2009 1:18 p.m.

    Marvel Ultimate Alliance is also fun.
  • 98tyger - June 10, 2009 4:21 a.m.
  • Timothy_Lemon - April 20, 2009 9:07 p.m.

    my girlfriend is hooked on cod 4 & 5. she rinses me at them now hahah. she tried halo 3 but couldn't get on with that but she likes godfather II and lego indy.
  • linkganon - April 18, 2009 7:05 p.m.

    i get really irritated when i have to play a game i do not like but a girl i'm with likes it and she forces me to play this game all the time when i want to stealthfully kill somebody. remember, if you assume you make an ass out of u and me (that came from bad news bears)
  • deathrebellion - April 17, 2009 11:37 a.m.

    the poor poor alien bugs *sniff* *sniff* no1 gives a damn abt them nyway gr8 article i might even try ur rules
  • JCBlueNose - April 17, 2009 8:53 a.m.

    I don't mind the help on games it's just when people try to take over that I get annoyed
  • killemall - April 16, 2009 8:32 p.m.

    I don't really agree with the fighting game scenario though... get a girl drunk and give her a fighting game where you can win by button mashing and she'll want to do it everytime she's drunk... in fact i turned at least 6 other girls into gamers but putting them up against each other in tekken tag. they'll never admit to being gamers though but for some reason all have consoles now... hmmm however, even though i would never admit the thought of blowing up humans bothers me, i've realized...i'm not a huge GTA fan, and i can't get into call of duty4 and only play it cause my roommie likes it.. but gears of war2? i can't stop playing maybe you are on to something~
  • theschwartzb - April 16, 2009 7:39 p.m.

    @FadedLineVigil so what if this article is purely opinion, if you bother to read any of the other comments on this article, you will see that many people (including girls themselves) say that this article is pretty accurate. And although the title of the article says "five rules for introducing your girlfriend to videogaming, it really just seems like a useful article of getting any non gamer into gaming. How about instead of yelling about how this article is sexist, you look at it again, and see that is really an article to try to help gamers to get their non-gamer friends to try out a new activity, and this article is definitely not here to be sexist, even if you think it is.
  • WaywardRenegade - April 16, 2009 4:08 p.m.

    my girlfriend is not a fan of video games by any means, but she likes to play L4D, GTA4, mirrors edge(your right though Tyler...that game is really tough for her) and dead space. Though when she does pick up my x-box its about once a month kind of ironic...
  • JCBlueNose - April 16, 2009 2:47 p.m.

    I think that you play whatever the hell you wanna play whether the girl agrees or not at the end of the day it's your bloody console not hers
  • patriotfan09 - April 16, 2009 2:42 p.m.

    Nice article
  • JCBlueNose - April 16, 2009 2:22 p.m.

    Some Japanese games have really crap graphics
  • Awesomeitude1523 - April 16, 2009 1:01 p.m.

    I admit that my girlfriend has never touched a videogame, but, with this article's help, I'll have her playing Peggle in no time. And bioshock
  • xXHaloKillerXx - April 16, 2009 12:30 p.m.

    cool article!!!!!Surprised Gears of War wasnt a game to avoid.That game pisses me off sometimes!!!Or Halo 3.That game is fun...
  • Accidental - April 16, 2009 11:38 a.m.

    "Why would you not want to introduce gaming to your new boyfriend that way you can show off your skills on games" - JCBlueNose Yeah but I have a slight tendency to show off and not no when to stop so I avoid "showing my skills" unless someone is there letting me no when to stop. Which is sad really I guess...

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